When I read Maureen O’Connor’s article "Who Needs Skin? The Virtual Rebound as Breakup Therapy", the first thought that came across my 30+ millennial mind was that this was another piece of evidence that my generation is drifting further from the ability to cope with situations that require face to face (or skin to skin) contact. My second thought was “What a great STI prevention method!” After reading this article, I realized there are pros and cons to the digital rebound.
The night this article came out I was co-hosting an event for single ladies through the matchmaking/dating coaching company I work for and everyone was abuzz about it. Clearly these frustrations resonate with many singles in San Francisco.
A couple years ago my friend “Sandra” bought a certificate for a vacation package as a present for her boyfriend of several years. A few months later they broke up, and she realized she would need to use the certificate by the end of the year. After months of casual dating she met an amazing, unique woman unlike anyone she had ever dated and started dating her for a few months.
As a teacher and compassionate human being, I was appalled that a school district that has a majority of white wealthy students and exceedingly high test scores would spend money in an effort to get one child to leave the district. The girl’s mom is a nanny, so the two live in the Orinda district Monday through Friday, and stay with the girl’s grandmother on weekends
If you’re reading this blog, chances are you have an ex on your mind. That might feel sad, oppressing or anger-inducing. Maybe you are feeling unrequited love, confusion at how a seemingly great relationship could go awry, or sadness that you only have the memories but not direct contact with this person.
Every Halloween I meet new people easily. Why? I’m a retired children’s entertainer and everyone and their kid wants to hit me up for costumes…I’m rebelling from 9 years of wearing a school uniform? No seriously, I allow the festive nature of the holiday to enable myself and the people around me to step out of their comfort zone and open up.
Additional tips for meeting people and connecting authentically on Halloween…
Borrow or lend costumes (sharing makes people feel closer).
Show your sense of humor, interests or crafty skills in your costume.
Give genuine new compliments on costumes.
Give candy, scary gag gifts, thematic costume items (magic coins, fake money)
Ask the parents of your children if they want to team up for children’s Halloween events.
Invite people you want to know better to join your Halloween plans.
Find out more about people you want to know better by asking about Halloween plans without being direct (Are they single? Do they have/want kids who go trick or treating? Do they drink? Do they go out to nightlife events? Do they celebrate Day of the Dead?)
If you liked these tips and you want more, be sure to sign up for the complimentary virtual seminar How to Meet Great People (for Dating or Decades of Friendship)
Thursday November 12 7pm PST
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Please email me any questions about the teleseminar and forward to friends.
Happy Halloween and Dia de los Muertos !