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Part One: Three Lessons from Nonmonogamy to Empower the Unpartnered Monogamist

"Always go as fast as the slowest person can handle" was one of my favorite gems of wisdom from Liat Wexler from the International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy in Berkeley. Wexler presented on the unique elements of domestic violence among non-monogamous communities, yet the wisdom coming from professionals, academics and community members devoted…
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Scariest Halloween Costume: Your Highest Self

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us." -Marianne Williamson This Halloween I was delighted when my partner who is deep in a 66+hour/week programmer bootcamp, accepted my invitation to go to a…
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How to Meet New People on Halloween

An oldie but a goodie! Dates mentioned are from 2015, but more events coming Weds Nov 9 and Feb 17 listed at www.loveleafcoaching.com/events

When Monogamy Begets Murder

IN MEMORY OF JACKSON NJOROGE Career and life coach, Joe Brachocki posted a beautiful piece honoring his friend from Kenya, Jackson Njoroge, who was murdered by a man sleeping with Jackson’s girlfriend. The man hadn’t know about Jackson and when he found out about him, he got into a fight with him and killed him…
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How to Make Halloween a Day of New Friendship

Every Halloween I meet new people easily. Why? I’m a retired children’s entertainer and everyone and their kid wants to hit me up for costumes…I’m rebelling from 9 years of wearing a school uniform? No seriously, I allow the festive nature of the holiday to enable myself and the people around me to step out of their comfort zone and open up.

Additional tips for meeting people and connecting authentically on Halloween…

Borrow or lend costumes (sharing makes people feel closer).
Show your sense of humor, interests or crafty skills in your costume.
Give genuine new compliments on costumes.
Give candy, scary gag gifts, thematic costume items (magic coins, fake money)
Ask the parents of your children if they want to team up for children’s Halloween events.
Invite people you want to know better to join your Halloween plans.
Find out more about people you want to know better by asking about Halloween plans without being direct (Are they single? Do they have/want kids who go trick or treating? Do they drink? Do they go out to nightlife events? Do they celebrate Day of the Dead?)
If you liked these tips and you want more, be sure to sign up for the complimentary virtual seminar How to Meet Great People (for Dating or Decades of Friendship)

Thursday November 12 7pm PST

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Please email me any questions about the teleseminar and forward to friends.

Happy Halloween and Dia de los Muertos !

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